The Best New Resolutions To Make and Ones to Ditch

I’m not a fan of New Year’s Resolutions.


We feel this pressure at the start of a new year to better ourselves but what if we resolved to be kinder to ourselves instead?


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I have struggled with this anytime I make “self improvement” resolutions.

And I’m not alone, A study conducted by researchers at the University of Scranton found that 23% of people quit their resolution after just one week. And only 19% of individuals are actually able to stick to their goals long term (two years, in the case of the study).


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So this year I resolve to do more in 2020 that brings me joy.


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Here are some fun ideas for New Year’s Resolutions to bring joy into your life

• Throw a dart on the map and go there.
• Get out into nature more often.
• Perform one act of kindness every day.
• Find someone to mentor.
• Change your perception of other people.
• Make a new friend.
• Reconnect with an old friend.
• Connect with a loved one by phone every week.
• Spend less time on social media.
• Find a shared hobby with your partner.
• Listen to a new song every day.
• Try a new recipe once a month


Another approach is to think about 12 habits you want to add to your life.

I would like to add

– more time with friends.  I LOVE entertaining but only do it a few times a year.  So I’ve already planned a game night in January with friends.

– more date nights with my husband.  Honestly, we were pretty lazy in 2019 and need to up our dating game.

– more craft projects.  I LOVE to craft but it often gets pushed aside to do something I feel like I “should” be doing instead.  I’m going to add more crafts to my 2020 goals.

What are your New Years Intentions?

— Stephanie