10% of parents admit they have a favorite child, according to a new survey. And it’s most likely to be the youngest child . . . and slightly more likely to be a girl than a boy.
If you’ve always thought your parents like your brother or sister more than they like you . . . well, there’s about a one in 10 chance that you’re right.
And in case you’re still not sure, here are 5 telltale signs that you most certainly have a favorite
So how do you know if you have a favorite kid, even if you can’t quite admit it to yourself? Here are five signs that you might be playing favorites:
1:Your younger child “gets away” with a lot more than your older child, who can become resentful. This is common and often related to favoritism of younger children.
2: You find yourself more relaxed around a favored child. You smile more, laugh more, and are less stressed.
3: Your tone and choice of words change when discussing your children with outsiders, including friends, teachers, and others.
4: You have uneven expectations for your children. Paradoxically, lower expectations are often a sign of favoritism, while unfavored children are frequently held to a higher standard on chores, behavior, and even academic performance.
5: You get very defensive and uncomfortable when the topic of favoritism comes up, possibly as a way to hide guilt.
A Psychotherapist, says it’s normal for most parents to have a favorite child, and that favoritism isn’t the same as withholding love. After all, Dr. Libby writes, “No children are identical, making it impossible for any two children to be treated the same.”
Moreover, favoritism can be fluid, depending on ages and stages—a favorite toddler may slip in parental estimation when he or she becomes as unruly teen, while their previously meek sibling emerges as a star student.
Now if you are a sibling and you want to know who the favorite is,
To see the 15 tell-all signs your sibling is the favorite